It’s the season of love. The reality of many years of hearts, flowers, and chocolate has come and gone. Is it sad that things I find more romantic these days are based on practicality? A little time to truly have a conversation without someone screeching through it. Doing a little task that saves me much effort. A sweet note or text wishing me a good day, or telling me that you’re thinking of me. Helping me with a crazy Pinterest project, just because. Coming home and dinner is already cooking. Bringing me something I forgot at home. These things I love. I find these small tidbits in every day life is truly romantic.
It means your partner is looking out for you, and thinking ahead of your needs. That has got to be the sexiest thing I can think of. My husband is putting me first. (Heaven knows, I don’t even put myself first).
This holiday, I’m giving my husband the gift of quality time. I could go and book a romantic restaurant, and find a babysitter. My budget doesn’t currently allow for this, and with the crush of Valentines Day with so many other couples celebrating that way, it’s not really our style. Instead I am regaling him with an item from this list (and I’m not going to tell him which one!)
Figure out what the rules are for you both to have a great night. Here’s a few suggestions:
Put away all your devices. No Instagram picture necessary, trust me.
Make eye contact, listen wholeheartedly.
Put away any topic that is a hot-button (eg. work, finances, etc).
Don’t break the date!
10 Ideas for a Romantic Date at Home
Living Room Picnic
Grab your favourite blanket or quilt, the cushions from the couch and eat on the floor. Order your favourite take-out, and don’t forget the dessert.
Grab a Board Game
Blow the dust bunnies off that classic game that you love, or pick one up from the local thrift store. Here’s a list of ones that are great for 2 players. Scrabble, Rummikub, UNO and Triominos are favourites of ours.
Appetizer or Dessert Only Dinner
Try a different take on dinner with just your favourite appetizers or desserts. We love doing this and throwing off the shackles of a balanced meal when the kids aren’t around. It’s like a little rebellion of sorts.
You each get to pick to movies that will be watched. Pop that popcorn (with extra butter, of course), and snuggle in for a entertaining night that isn’t rated G.
Video Game War
Challenge your partner in the ultimate head-to-head video game challenge of your (or his) favourite game. Make sure to bring gamer snacks (ones that won’t mess up the controllers), and a trophy or medal for the winner. Here’s one you can print.
I love Pinterest with a passion that cannot be quenched. I have a board or two that are full of projects that are just slightly out of reach for me without dear DH’s skills. Each pick a project and complete them together. Who knows what you can DIY together?
Try a New Favourite or Old Classic Recipe
Experimenting with a recipe or trying a favourite from childhood never goes out of style. Pick a recipe that you both can work on. I recommend reserving books about cooking for two from your local library or googling the recipe you’re interested in making.
Tackle a Room in Your House
Add a little romance to your master bedroom or bathroom by sprucing up the joint. New fluffy bath sheets, a few flowers, or new wood hangers for your scarf collection will make you smile everyday!
Plan Your Next (or Dream) Vacation
We absolutely love to plan what our next RV adventure is going to be. It is fun to dream big (or small). Grab a few brochures from your local travel agent, or research together your next vacation. You might find out things that are on your partner’s bucket list that you never imagined.
Discover Each Other’s Bodies (Again)
Use a massage to crank up the endorphins. Focus on the foreplay, did you know women actually prefer 18 minutes of it before getting to the main event? Add in a new lubricant or vibrator, like Trojan’s Vibration line-up to spice things up! (All Trojan™ products can be bought at mass and drug retailers across Canada, or from the privacy of your own home at www.trojanvibrations.ca.)